Men Want Femininity, Not Masculinity, in Women

By David Maillu
Published July 9, 2017

We are going through a serious gender identity crisis in which women are trying every trick to look like men. Does this mean the value of female is diminishing as that of men appreciate? What is the cause of this trend? There are few men who attempt to look like women because men are more proud of their identity than women are. Why is this so?

However much a woman tries to look like a man, she cannot be a man other than abusing the law of nature; with consequences. What men want in a woman is the essence of femininity – a real woman. They get disappointed when they find that femininity watered down by attempts to look like men. The best woman is that one who is proud of being female. Why is it that a man would radiate with pride when he is told “You are a real man” while many women would cherish the compliment, “You act like a man”? Any sensible man would consider it an insult if someone were to tell them, “You act like a woman.”

In Africa to be a woman earns the person utmost pride where woman wants to be appreciated for her role in life and consequently what she is in that role in which she plays an equal partnership but not a complementary partnership. The game change has become the worship of materialism which men worship and make gods out of themselves. One can argue that the depreciation of the female is heavily influenced by materialism.

On the materialism market both men and women are now thrown in the game as competitors to see who outsmarts the other. Metaphorically speaking, it is a ridiculous competition of running race between a man and a pregnant woman where, of course, man must be winner. It is almost insanity to expect equality of material performance between man and woman. Woman is the mother of woman and, by nature, she is given more responsibility in servicing life than man. At home, she is burdened with being the conceiver, deliverer, breast-feeder and caretaker of the child, while the husband reads newspapers and goes to nightclubs. Industrially she cannot be measured with the same weighing balance and considered man’s competitor. In other words, woman cannot be equal to man because, naturally, woman has a bigger social responsibility baggage than man.

Why Mental Slavery Reigns in Kenya

By David Maillu
Published June 17, 2017

Bob Marley, a Jamaican Reggae maestro, urged the black race to deliver itself from mental slavery.I was talking to a friend the other day when I mentioned something important I had seen on a local television network the previous day and he was quick to reply, “These days I’m not a fan of local broadcasting. I stopped watching local stations and listening to radio ages ago. The only thing I watch is the daily news. After news I switch to international stations, such as BBC and Al Jazeera. Reason? The broadcast adds very little value to my mind unlike those overseas stations. Year-in-and-year-out local broadcasters play music and dancing only to run soap opera imported from South America or – you know where they get them, don’t you?”

Walk into any major bookshop in Nairobi and the books in the front display are written and published by foreigners. African books are given a secondary position and, in some cases, are tucked in the shelves somewhere. Walk into the leading five star hotels; the menu there is foreign.

I have just been talking to woman armed with a Master’s degree in food. We were talking in English about vanishing cultural values when she said, “You people of the old generation are better off. Our generation can hardly write and speak in their mother tongues which are disappearing.”

Unfortunately, our government, which should be the custodian and promoter of our cultural values, is using foreign instruments in addressing those values. The worst form of colonialism is not physical but intellectual. We got rid of the physical one but we were left with the intellectual one. The blame shouldn’t be laid on the consumer but on the provider. If local broadcasting stations and media houses don’t offer anything appealing and one which add value to the consumer’s life, the consumer would listen and watch anything appealing, even if it be foreign. If the hotels don’t offer local and appealing menu, the consumer has the right to spend his money eating any tasty menu at whatever cultural consequences. If the government doesn’t take responsibility in promotion of writing and publishing appealing books, the consumer will survive on foreign reading materials.

What’s all this big talk about having thrown the colonialist away? It looks that after being thrown through the door the colonial returned through the window to stay. That is how African values are being permanently colonized. The consumer is ready to take anything which is appealing. The government is processing the citizen strategically not just for wearing imported secondhand clothes (mitumba) from Europe and Asia, but for the consumption of “intellectual mitumba.” Nature hates a vacuum. Whatever cultural vacuum we create regarding local values will instantly be filled in by foreign values to the destruction of local integrity.

Intellectual Nomads and Lack of Creativity

By David G Maillu

Imagine someone trained and qualified as a pilot returning to the village to start flying self-made toys to the delight of villagers; a trained and qualified engineer taking a job in making toys. That is the parable of what most of our intellectuals are doing. It is sheer misuse of brain power.

Africa is busy producing intellectual nomads, something which pays tribute to intellectual exodus. We are producing intellectuals who are of little use to the suffering Africa where their knowledge is critically needed. When these nomads they hit back, “Africa pays us peanuts for our brains. We must seek better pastures elsewhere.” They edit out, “in Whiteman’s world.” That exodus is invites replacements of second-class intellectuals from the Whiteman’s world in the big aid industry of helping Africa. The Whiteman’s world wouldn’t dare, at whatever cost, to let its first-class intellectuals go to work in third worlds.

In Kenya, knowledge has become part of the power of capitalism. It has become a common stand that that knowledge qualified by your university degrees, like your bank account, is only yours and your family’s alone. That explains why it is so easy even for the most needful doctor in Samburu to leave his impoverished Samburu people for greener pastures in the Whiteman’s world. Colonials used African labour and taxes to build their Empires; today they are using the African intellectual to perfect their empires.

Kenya is only economically poor, leave alone the few gods of money. Yet it is teeming with intellectual wealth. It has produced the brains needed to shoot the economy of the country to the moon. However, the dominant interest in those minds is money, pesa, mbecia! Period. To get that money it is fashionable to exploit, deceive, maim, or kill for money. This is powered by the philosophy that you sell your blood where it is most worth. They are obsessed with quick money, powered by the dream of driving a four-wheel monster car or a Mercedes and live in a palatial home. It’s the birth of a culture of economic terror. Kenya is full of economist terrorists.

The country is poor because it lacks creativity in creating wealth. Even the highly educated people don’t want to be engaged in long-term creativity and professionalism. There is no incentive in individuals being obsessed with deep thinking and whatever it would take to accomplish the needed research. Money takes priority to commitment in research in science and art. History of invention has it that most inventors were people with little money. Is there a rich man who would spend his valuable time roaming in the semi-desert places studying the behavior of the African squirrel, which may lead to other scientific breakthrough?

If Kenyans put creativity into practice they would solve unemployment. Jobs are a matter of mental creation. It is the mind which created man’s power to fly. If we allow ourselves to be drugged by material terrorism, who is going to be our top scientist, researcher, discoverer, inventor, philosopher tomorrow?

That Kenyan Luo young man, who, some years ago, invented the Mobile Pesa idea which has revolutionized money transaction and become a world phenomenon, was not powered by money but by creativity. His creativity has created millions of jobs and put Kenya on the world map. The world had to learn the Mobile-Pesa miracle from Kenya. That inventor is one of the many sleeping ones. What incentive is the government giving to inventors and discovers?

If there are no jobs, it surely must be blamed on lack of creativity in the nation. For example, if Arabia is dying for charcoal, why have we not utilized our idle land by planting trees commercially for harvesting charcoal for Arabian consumption? Why are our cities not designed to have cyclist paths?

Why is the army sitting in barracks and prisoners in prisons doing nothing instead of being engaged in productive engagements like in making dams, planting trees, building bridges and, and…? If the Nairobi river water was recycled, can you imagine how much that water would irrigate? If we cannot produce a car, isn’t time we started thinking of producing motorbikes, mechanized domestic equipment? Why should we still import bicycles?

How many people would be employed if we harvested all the water running to the ocean? Why are our medical scientists not researching on our immense herbal medicine and telling us how to make an industry out of making pills? Why are we promoting eating bread for breakfast instead of eating nduma and sweet potatoes which we can grow locally? Why are our musicians sleeping on their creative minds? How dare we import food when we have expansive idle land for growing food for local and export consumption?

African governments are suffering from creative inertia. Something should beat them awake. To add an insult to an injury, the Kenyan government finds sense in paying a professionally lying politicians a monthly salary of nearly a million shillings, whereas a professor earns a quarter of that salary. That professor, scientist and doctor, have spent their lifetime in acquiring knowledge for which they are being paid peanuts.

Come to Kenya, stand by the side of a Nairobi street and start counting the percentage of the big four wheel personal cars passing by. After nearly every five saloon cars pass, you see a four-wheel monster, probably occupied by the proud owner alone or with one passenger. Go to Japan, Germany and Sweden where those monsters are manufactured and you will be amazed by how few of them you see in streets. Think of the cost of importing cars, petrol, spare parts, household goods, and nearly everything consumed in Kenya. Kenya is merely proud of fake economy crying for foreign aid because it can’t create wealth.

In Kenya money can buy you justice. Your degree is fashionable only in enabling you to earn money, but not for discovery and exploitation of intellectual frontiers. That is why a professor can throw his intellectual towel on the political ring and go for money. It is uncommon in Europe to hear a Cabinet Minister called Professor. We have got a host of Members Parliament with doctorate degrees. In intellectually developed countries where they know the work of education to the nation, Professors and top scientists are too precious to waste their brains in Parliament arguing over small matters like the supply of sanitary towels to school girls.

Fifty years since Kenya became independent; the nation has been systematically engaged in developing a culture of consumption at the cost of production, kneeling before dependency on European and Asian industrialized countries. We have an over production of educated people devoid of our creativity. We are celebrating what Prof Kabaji called mediocrity and fake economy.

A highly educated mind is like a loaded gun. He can apply his mind to get useful things, but that mental potential can also be applied for destruction. An educated thief is more dangerous than an educated thief. The worst destroyers of our economy are the highly educated because they have the power to take the population to the right path or lead them astray. Kenya has produced professors who are thieves. The thing is, what is that thief professor saying to the young generation? Where does that highly talked about integrity fit into the equation? Which are the models to be emulated by the young ones? When a pastor is engaged in stealing and in adultery, what is Christianity saying to the faithful?
Kenya has developed a philosophy of eating your cake and having it through magic tricks.

It’s time we returned to the drawing board to find out where things started breaking apart and where the rains started beating us. We are deep into the economic sea. We either learn how to swim or sink. God bless creative minds.

Paul Kagame, President of Rwanda.

Swap Presidents as a Test for pan-Africanism

By David G Maillu

Uhuru Kenyatta, Kenya's President, has been accused of not holding direct talks with medical doctors to end nationwide strike that has paralysed healthcare across the country.What is it that African Presidents are doing in order for their community and for themselves to understand each other better? During colonial days we were referred to as Africans. In Kenya there were only three communities. Africans, Europeans and Indians. Colonials were fantastic human farmers who created paddocks, in terms of states, for better effecting farming and administration. The East African paddocks were Kenya, Uganda and Tanzania. When we became independent, it was actually independence for animals in those paddocks to be demoted from being called Africans to become known as Kenyans, Ugandans, Tanzanians and so on. Grounds for interacting and understanding one another were destroyed.

They say that creativity is the mother of invention and builder of empires. I am afraid, African’s creativity has remained unexploited for ages. But that creativity is needed most to solve present problems. Call it madness what I am going to suggest; but it is sometimes said that there is thin line between genius and insanity.

Paul Kagame, President of Rwanda.In order to exercise the taste of pan-Africanism or for better understanding of how it feels to be in the political shoes of someone else, how about trying something unprecedented? I suggest that Presidents of some selected countries, best in the East African Community, on behalf of the continent, should swap positions for a month. For Example, President Yoweri Museveni could swap it with President Uhuru Kenyatta. Or President Kenyatta with President Paul Kagame.Or President John Magufuli with President Museven and so on.

The swappers would get out of the exercise very enlightened and things would never be the same with themselves. By all means, the exercise, which wouldn’t cost much, would help cleanse many prejudices and misunderstandings among the citizens. The participants would not need foreign aid for the exercise.

Polygamy is a Choice

By David G Maillu

One of the most sensitive subjects in Africa is polygamy. Why? Different mind sets have different reasons for this, some of the reasons based religious interpretation. Most white people think that every African man is a polygamist. Furthermore to them, to a large extent, polygamy is associated with primitive people. That is why many people in Europe and in America got the shock of their lives when President Zuma – a civilized man and President – came out proudly in his full Zulu polygamous colours. In fact, Zuma gave polygamy the credit it deserves. President Zuma and President Obama have given the Black Race psychologically boost and they should be given the highest cultural prize which, unfortunately, cannot come from the Nobel Prize institution.

Polygamy is a deal that is strictly between man and woman. Neither man nor woman can blame it on one person. To do so would be as biased as blaming prostitution on one gender. Today polygamy and witchcraft are publicly despised but privately they are appreciated. The other day I had a chat with the former head of the Kenyan Civil Service, Professor Philip Mbithi, who revealed to me his experience in the Kenyan top civil service. Majority of them, he told me, believe and engage in witchcraft matters.

The big question is whether polygamy is relevant or irrelevant in the African social scene today. In my published book OUR KIND OF POLYGAMY by East African Educational Publishers I said: That one’s meat is another person’s poison explains the dimensions of human differences and personalities. It is nonsensical, of course, to advance the claim that polygamy is wrong. Good questions to ask are: To whom is it wrong? Or under what circumstances does it become wrong? Africa has practiced polygamy as far back as the records can take us. Nobody would dispute that majority of great men in Africa come from polygamous marriages. My father was a polygamist. A child growing up in a polygamous marriages is given a unique workshop among his brothers and sisters for social development unlike children from monogamous families.

In fact, polygamy or plural marriage as it is called sometimes is found throughout the world and in a variety of forms that are determined by the culture of the people. Among the western people – the whites – the familiar term is consecutive polygamy. That is, marrying and living with one wife at a time, and this amounts to no more than a serial monogamy in which one husband is engaged consecutively in discreet monogamous unions. If he is dissatisfied by his wife, he looks for a reason with which to throw her out in order to create room for a new wife. That is why in those communities divorces are as common as malaria attacks in Africa. A man may end up in marrying three, four, five or more wives at different times. In Africa, when a man is totally dissatisfied by his wife, he leaves her within his estate and goes for a second wife. In other words, African civilization protects “divorced” women by giving them both family and accommodation. Literally, a man may live a monogamous marriage when he is, by history, polygamous. This fine social order protects both the woman and the children. If by any chance “divorced” mother gets a child from another man, that child inherits the name of the ex-husband; whereas in the western divorce children are torn apart from their parents. Furthermore, if the divorced mother gets a child from another man, that child is described as bastard. In African civilization there are no bastards.

The claim against polygamy based on Christian religion is absolutely baseless. There is no clear verse in the Bible which says NO to polygamy. In fact, one should not forget that God’s biblical heavy weights were polygamous, spearheaded by King Solomon with his a thousand wives, hundreds of them being concubines. It is the same Bible in Malachi which says, “God does not change.” That is, the God of the Abrahams is still the one and the same God of today. If God appreciated polygamy in the old times, when did God change to start despising polygamy instead of blessing it?

There are many reasons why people engage in polygamy. One of the main reasons is trying to solve a marital problem between the couple, which may be caused by one thing or the other, sex included. Another reason is adoption. In traditional Africa there were no free children for adoption. If a childless marriage desires having a child, the man adopts a woman with or without children to give the family children and continuation. This adoption philosophy is vividly expressed by the so-called “woman-to-woman” marriage. It is from this premise of adoption that we should understand the polygamy exercise of the late “Danger” man. Obviously, he did not marry all those wives because of his sexual urge. He was ax extraordinary adoptee of women. All the children born to the wives, whether fathered by him or not, were given his name. All the women married to him for whatever reason, felt fully married. In traditional Africa, sex is not enough to hold a marriage. No man in his full sense would divorce his wife because she went to bed with another man and even got a child from him. The value of woman was above sexual gratifications.